Have you ever felt as though you were stuck in the middle of a situation and felt like you might be accused of stirring things up if you happened to open up your mouth and give an honest opinion to people? Have you ever found yourself feeling that being nice to one person might come across as "taking sides" even if you just opened up your mouth to one individual and said hello to them on their blog?
I have recently come to the conclusion that so many things can be misinterpreted when face to face confrontation gets taken out of any given picture.
For instance, I read an email the other day and falsely assumed someone was screaming at me. If that doesn't sound idiotic enough, I called the person to ask them what in the hell was going on only to be confronted by a very nice soft voice on the phone.
So lets bring a little logic to the situation peoples!!!
The only screaming voice, in any given email, is the screaming voice in the recipient's head. Anyone can interpret what is written on a page and falsely assume it means something it does not.
If someone becomes angry, whilst browsing their message board, it is often due to a "trigger" word which stirs up a past memory which has absolutely nothing to do with the person who just wrote the sentence in the first place.
There is no tone of voice if no voice can be heard. There is no smile if there is no eye contact. There is no scar if one can't reach out their hand and bitch slap the person behind the avatar.
But if all else fails....
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LMFAO@cartoons.
I think people can yell in e-mails with anger leaping up off the page,if people are in an-email/im fight ,but when read later the intensity of the exchange in recap may be lost.
I believe some people can also misinterpret a yell when it actually isn't one.
I think I need all 5 senses. The minute one is taken away, I'm like Helen Kellar in a freshly decorated room.
Aaak, let's try this comment again? lol
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Hey Shell,
I'm sorry you felt in the middle, that's one of the reasons I left.
See, I'd rather bow out gracefully than make friends choose sides and have any more drama. .
I...guess I'm just not that territorial when it comes to friends.:)
The only reason I fought previously was because my accounts and pics were being used to harrass you and others.
However, apparently it is necessary to return and make one comment, a stronger request for no further communication for those on the net. As I said in my last post, I had the passwords changed to both email and my blog by a third party so I wouldn't even be tempted to engage with anyone further.
In fact, this real-life person changed it to jibberish even they couldn't remember so the decision would be permanent, lol.
As a result, I can only do this publically anonymously somewhere. (If in doubt it's me, check th IP and...."Remember the tree" lol;)
See, I thought we agreed to no more communication on Thursday via phone, Carly.
I thought it was even clearer when I stated this in the P.S. to my public post.
If not, it should've been when I refused to answer the subsequent phone calls, deleting your demanding/accustory voicemail and not calling you back.
If nothing else, you should've known when my daughter and her friends asked you politely not to call back...TWICE.
(I told her not to answer, but she did anyway.)
****So let me make this clearer: Please respect my boundary for NO MORE CONTACT, Carly...you or anyone else. ***** I will not spend any more time disproving increasingly asanine accusations or apologizing the millionth time for the same misstep in email, that truly had no malicious intent, to people I hardly know - a comment, by the way, which I also said was true about myself.
I don't know about you, Carly, but I'm on a no-drama diet and I refuse to cheat.;)
I'm hoping that you have settled down and changing numbers won't be necessary.:)
Other than that, I have nothing further to say - not because I have anything to hide, but because what happened is no one else's business but ours.
Let the gossip fly; I already went to junior high, in real life and the blogs previously - I won't go back.
Again, good luck in your healing, ladies. I'm sincerely sorry for what I DID say, and I'm sorry we're all still too raw for this, I really am.:)
Chrys/Southernspeak4
That av looks really nice Shelly!
i dont think anyone really gets me. which is fine with me really.
Uber- No shit, really?
Psycho- Nobody gets anybody on the internet. Some people write a blog and choose a persona while others write about the person they really are.
Some people put up a profile picture of someone they are not or a picture of what they used to look like when they were in high school.
Anything can be misinterpreted on the internet. It's the nature of the beast.
I'm always misinterpreted.
I sometimes have contemplated putting up a picture of a really hot chick, for my profile picture, just to watch my hits go up and to get a good laugh.
I used to be so gullible and I believed that all of the bloggers I used to write to were really honest people.
The truth is, most are not, and are driven to blog because of a need to fill a void inside of themselves for something they are not getting in real life.
One blogger I know even sends herself anon comments to her own blog and spends every waking hour on the internet. Her profile picture is of her eyes only and she actually weighs about 300 pounds.
I don't particularly care what a person looks like. However, I do have a problem with people who lie about who they are to manipulate others.
The sad fact is most people who "engage" in internet relationships are never going to know the complete truth about another person unless they put the keyboard down and get to know that person in real life.
I 'get' everyone on the net.That's why I hate most net people, Psycho.
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