I think sometimes to reveal too much is to also take away from a precious gift. We live in a world where some choose to publicly display their affections instead of keeping things private amongst themselves.
Me myself, I prefer a little mystery. Although I joke a lot, and can be vulgar at times, in some aspects of my life I do not believe in banners. Some words are better left unspoken.
Sometimes to give is to also take away. If a man sends his girlfriend flowers every Friday and forgets one weekend to mail them, would the lady place more emphasis on what she received previously or what was now forgotten? At what point does giving turn into expecting? And doesn't expecting also diminish love?
What would a woman accomplish by constantly needing her husband to show affection to her in front of others? Is there honestly any love in the need? Or perhaps is real love more to do with simply knowing?
If a person can't believe in something without seeing it first, does a person truly believe in anything?
Call me an ass, but I've always thought true love and spirituality are intertwined. Faith, hope, and love are not separate in my mind.
To show the world what one has is to honestly reveal nothing.
So I prefer a little mystery.
Yes, some things are better left unsaid.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
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Yes, I agree mystery is intoxicating.
I love me a little mystery too.
me too...I believe in true love and spirituality are intertwined...like a gossomer.
I loved this post...it says alot about you.
ciao honey.
Okay now we're getting heavy. But it is necessary to investigate such subjects. Good post. You're not only mysterious you're a very interesting woman.
Well said, Shelly. There is a time and place for everything, so I think it's ok to be vulgar (at times) and mysterious in others.
Oooh, I love mystery. I love the not knowing and the trying to find out; the unexpected and the spontaneous.
I can't think of anything worse than having flowers every Friday or being told 'I love You' every ten minutes.
I adore mystery... it's way more alluring. I am a spiritual person, deep, loving and passionate, but I feel I tend to fall in love too quickly, give my all then and up ..well..! beautiful post girl x
Uber- I think sometimes to know everything is to also take away from faith. :)
Spikey- Ok now I'm confused. Lol. What does it say about me?
Liam- Thank you for the wonderful compliment. Your not the first one has told me that but I often wonder why people say that to me??? People usually tell me I have a way with words which makes a person think. Truth be told, sometimes I wish I didn't think so much. :)
Jlee- Please don't encourage my vulgarity! I think if I started a coin jar I would become poor before stopping my atrocious potty mouth from offending. My mum used to even wash my mouth out with soap when I was little. It didn't work. I love the take of soap!
No wonder I have no faith! :)
hahahahahahaha@ love the taste of soap.
Elaine- A good rule of thumb for me is too many compliments makes me think a person has an agenda. Too little compliments or constantly degrading or putting down and that is a red flag the person is abusive. And the person who is just right I have never been in a relationship with. I just want to know who keeps stealing my cute little middle bear. Fuckers!
Indigo- I don't so much have that problem as much as I used to but I still do see it now and then.
I've been told the key is to not put all of your eggs in one basket.
But who cares how many baskets a person has if they spot a golden egg?
Perhaps the key is more in putting the person in the mirror first and letting go of the rest? I think that is the most accurate answer. :)
Is thouest dear Uber suggesting she is faultless? Thank you for correcting my typo ubertwat!
I know first hand about the expecting thing. I now have an ex because I couldn't call her every night since I had no mobile phone service in some of the areas I work in.... Thankfully
When one has the most precious thing in life that gives you life, your heart, they know that they have it, and they need nothing more than to feel it's beat within their soul to satisfy their cravings. I know that is how I feel about the woman I love.
Savage- I will promptly pucker up and kiss your hairy ass if you will point me in the direction of this psycho exterminator phone service!
Bama Trav- Who in the hell are you to come in here and make my heart melt like that and then point out the fact you are already taken?
Bastard!
Shelly - I never said I was taken, I just feel that way for someone, unfortunately it is not reciprocated.
Bama Trav-
I so do get where you are coming from there. Sometimes it is very easy to open up one's heart to those who do not reciprocate. After all, there is sort of a safety element to it, don't you think? The only sound advice I have to give to you about this is to make more friends, male and female, and to keep busy and to let things go.
I'm not saying to stop desiring or loving this woman. I'm saying to let it go and if it was meant to be it will be. Don't close yourself off to loving others just because you have found someone who doesn't reciprocate. :)
I have found with some people it is better to let them make the first move. If someone doesn't reciprocate, back off and let them make the first move. Don't put your life on hold waiting in limbo either. Everyone gets rejected at one time or another by someone. This does not make you any less a man.
I would say just lead an active lifestyle, go out and meet more women, and stay friends with this woman if you can.
There are more fish in the sea honey. The key is to make all the fishies see what a good catch you are and to make them chase you. :)
Shelly - Well in all fairness I went in knowing she could not reciprocate, didn't mean too, just sort of happened that way. I still go and cat around, lurking in the shadows ;) If she just had not been so pretty and, well, someone I related too so well, she is kind of mysterious, I still don't know why I feel that way towards her sometimes. Just do.
Oh yes, one other thing. She is a captivating woman, you can't look away from her, NO man can, and not too many women. That was the initial attraction for me at least, she did reveal her inner beauty which is much more than her physical attributes.
Shelly sweetie...it says I love how you think and express your thoughts.
It says you rock baby.
xx
Bama Trav- At the risk of sounding like a complete cunt, I'm going to tell you what makes a person captivating. Do not give everything or reveal everything. To keep going on and on will only make you look pathetic.
Show what is in your heart by being kind, but NEVER, and I repeat NEVER reveal all.
To reveal all will sometimes make others uncomfortable. How do you ever expect to make this person open up if they don't feel the same way and can't relax? Just mellow the fuck out. Lol.
That's what I would do. Give this person breathing room and let it be. Be happy you still have a friendship. Sometimes the most beautiful friendships are made because nothing more intimate ever develops.
And if you ask me, good friendships are often times even better then relationships with those one has sex with.
Spikey- awe. How kind of you. I'm going to be honest with you. Until you did that recent post of yours, I judged you horribly. I always admired the fact you were this bubbly positive woman, but I falsely assumed your positivity stemmed from having a cush life. I so do admire the fact you maintain such a wonderful attitude after all you have been through.
And that's the reason I admire you and think you rock!
Well, having never looked at it from a different angle, from a different view, under a different light. I don't think I will speak to them again. Sound advice.
Bama- To not speak is to achieve nothing. The goal should be to simply let the other person speak more.
I wasn't saying anything to offend you, btw. If you got to know me, you would realize that isn't the person I am.
Jaysus ! Look at the damn "chick-ring" I've fallen into here !!!
Shelly - None taken by any means. There is no goal to achieve, I promise, this person could not possibly be with me, no matter how much I would want it. Ha, She is just someone that I talk to here and there.
Heff- Well it beats a cock ring, doesn't it?
*smiles evil grin*
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