Thursday, September 24, 2009

Sometimes It Pays To Be Kind To People

I don't know just what in the hell has been going on lately, but it seems my new attitude has changed my life dramatically.

Within the last two days, I have scored on free shit like you wouldn't believe! It isn't like there was any motive on my part either to suck up to get freebies.

Truth be told, I was actually a bit blown away because I have never been the type who wins anything.

I called my mother and asked her for advice and she told me to shut the hell up and go buy a lottery ticket!

So the question I have been pondering over lately is if being positive does ultimately attract more positive things to happen?

A couple of days ago, I was eating at a restaurant where the waitress was constantly being belittled by the man she was serving. Seeing how closed off she was, I made a conscious effort to look in her eyes and smile as she was serving me.

What I didn't expect was for her to open up and talk about her recent vacation or her boyfriend or her life outside of the job. However, she did just that.

Later on I would contemplate just what I did to make her feel so comfortable. I mean, was it my kindness, or did she just sense my openness so, in turn, became more open herself?

As I was getting ready to leave, I looked down at my bill to find it to be half the price it should have been. Being a person of integrity, I looked up and said, "Sweety, I think you calculated my bill wrong. There are some items missing and you didn't add my diet coke to the bill at all."

She just looked at me with a little devilish grin on her face and winked at me and said, "Honey. As far as I'm concerned, you had water all night."

Ironically, yesterday I also hit the freebie jackpot!

I hate to admit it, but I have a terrible Starbucks habit. As I was pulling up to the window, I was expecting a standard greeting and got just the opposite!

Before any words exited my mouth, the cute little coffee boy came across the speaker and frightened me by telling me what my order was!

My response, "What are you, fucking psychic? How did you know my order? Can you see me?"

"No. I'm psychic." he says this while laughing hysterically.

"you little lying bastard" I say "the camera is right fucking there."

I point to the camera with my "f" finger and reach out of my car and cover it up.

We were both laughing so hard and I felt a little guilty because the line behind me was beginning to back up with cars.

Surprising enough, after receiving my coffee, he looks at me and smiles and says, "open up your hands sweetheart."

Who would have thunk it? Starbucks is coming out with some new brand of instant coffee which can be added to cold water.

I now have about a months supply of coffee samples. Lol.

25 comments:

electro-kevin said...

Yes. Being positive definitely does attract positive things.

Unless you're a neutron - in which case you can only attract electrons which are negative. I'm positive about this.

UBERMOUTH said...

I do believe that kindness begets kindness.That's why when I see people are toxic I exit such negativity leaving sparks.

BamaTrav said...

well I am one of the most hateful people on earth and I have NEVER been kind. Why change now? Que the violin Godfather music. Ha

JLee said...

"does being positive does ultimately attract more positive things to happen?"
YES YES YES! You already knew that though ;)
I read this book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" and it talks about looking people in the eye and really listening to what they're saying instead of formulating your next sentence. I tried this out on a trip to CA one time when the flight attendant was going through the safety measures. I watched intently, really paying attention to what he was saying. When they finished, he walked over and said in a soft voice "thank you for paying attention" and smiled!

JLee said...

ps
BamaTrav is a big mush ball of sweetness, so I'm outing him! lol

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Electro Kevin- What do morons attract then?

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Uber- so what are you saying then? That you shit toxicity sparks?

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Bama- I think sometimes it is rather easy to become bitter on a world which tends to be so superficial. I've been bitter a lot, but refuse to become completely evil as I realize it only makes all of my enemies realize they have conquered me. So what the hell am I babbling on about? Sometimes it pays to be happy if only to piss off those who live to only make people unhappy.

Shelly Rayedeane said...

My Darling Doris- *snickers*

That is actually a very positive trait of yours. You are a very good listener! :)

Most people do spend more time thinking about what they are going
to say next rather then placing value on the opposite's perspective.

Heff said...

Damn, that UBERMOUTH is all over the place !

BamaTrav said...

Well, I guess since I have been outed I will have to own it. I am not really hateful at all, I just like to be a cut up and play the devils advocate. I am truly one of the more loving people in the world.

Liam said...

I'm coming over to touch you and see if it rubs off.

Indigo said...

What goes around comes around....eventually, but I know what you're saying, the times I tried to be nice and all I got was her shouting at me, silly cow, I ignored her the next time we met, think she got the message? Am I really bothered?

Spiky Zora Jones said...

Um yeah see...um...you just keep hanging out with me and LUCK will follow.

psst...go by a lotto ticket quick like momma said.

hehehe I'me happy that you are smiling so much these days sweets. I'm feel lucky too...just knowing you. :)

Have a wonderful weekend honey...

Ciao. xxx

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Heff- After such a comment, I am tempted to say something about red carpets but have been banned from stating such things anymore because of Carly.

Bama Trav- being pulled out of a mushball of sweetness closet isn't such a bad thing. I want to be called a mushball of sweetness but I tend to be a psycho magnet when I show my heart to people. So for now, I shall remain in the closet and lock the door again. Lol.

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Liam- I think you are nicer then I am so perhaps this rubbing off wouldn't benefit you. I feel perhaps the opposite will happen and you will end up rubbing off on me instead.


Indigo- Even when others do evil deeds, it is still a better response to say kind things. I am learning this lesson the hard way. The older I become, the more I am beginning to realize reacting to negativity with more negativity only creates more chaos. Sometimes it is hard as hell to stay silent when other people are abusive, but I have come to the conclusion the abuser often wins the minute they see they have found a vulnerable point where they can get in and twist the knife and continue to abuse.

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Spikey- Thank you for the very kind words. I needed that about now. You are a very sweet person and it shows in every one of your actions.

Btw, I do believe luck happens to some people again and again for a reason. I do believe the energy which surrounds a person can either bring about positive circumstances or self destruction. The key is to be able to refocus when surrounded by negativity. I am trying to learn such things now but some days it is hard as hell.

BamaTrav said...

O.k Shell, time for a new post so I can make some stupid statement. Oh, I have a rep to uphold, I am an asshole, you may know this.Ha

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Bama- I have been really busy this week and will probably get back to regular posting by the end of the week.

In the mean time:

1) Do not call yourself an asshole.
2) Do not call yourself stupid.
3) Do not put yourself down because thoughts follow words and then turn into actions.
4) If 1 thru 3 do not work, please read this list again until what I am saying sinks in.

Until then, have a wonderful week!

xoxoxox

Darfuria said...

Hi Shelly.

Sorry, I'm unable to comment on your latest post (which is where this comment is intended to go), as I get an error. I'm sure it's just a temporary issue.

If Uber needs a hand with hosting, I'm happy to help. I host with a fantastic webhost who are very, very friendly - who I know very well - and I would charge very little and manage all of the technicals...

You know where to find me :)

Dan

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Thank you Darfuria. I just got off the phone with her and am going to send her your way.

Thank you so much for your help!

Darfuria said...

There's now a contact page on my blog, by the way - so that you can e-mail me directly :)

Shelly Rayedeane said...

Thank you Dan. I will pass the information along.

Evening said...

SHELLY, YOU MAKE ME SMILE!!

Shelly Rayedeane said...

I miss you so much Maureen. I could pop through this computer window and pinch your cheeks!